Affirmations are powerful tools when it comes to personal change in our family and business worlds.
Our actions come from our nervous system, our nervous system is powered by our thoughts and our thoughts stem from our beliefs. Often our beliefs are deep routed, learnt through childhood and are built into our subconscious and we are not even aware they are there!
These beliefs can be empowering or empowering and we have the option to change or create new beliefs at any time. Our beliefs are formed one of two ways, through an emotionally charged event or through repetition. Affirmations work through repetition. By telling yourself something over and over again you plant this belief into your subconscious. When used correctly they create powerful shifts in your mindset, behaviours and life.
As a coach I learnt the theory (It is sooo interesting) but it wasn’t until I had coaching myself that I really understood the power of belief.
When I was first starting out I decided to get a coach myself. I wanted to understand the process of coaching inside and out.
During one my first sessions as the ‘coachee’ we talked about how I would start projects and then find it hard to keep it going. I have always been very self-motivated and this made no sense to me what so ever. My coach asked me lots of questions and I dug deep. After about 20 minutes I had a massive realisation. I believed I never finished anything! I had held this belief since I was 6 years old. As child I was often told ‘you never finish anything’ and ‘we should call you arthur, as in arthur-job’ Of course this was in jest but as young child I had taken it in and filed the belief away subconsciously. In that moment I realised I wasn’t following through because I believe I would never finish anything. It was a massive shock AND a massive turning point.
I went straight to work to change it. Every morning I looked straight at myself in the mirror and said, ‘I finish everything I begin’. I repeated this ten times. I continued to do this over the course of the day every time I came across a mirror and then repeated it just before bed.
In a very short space of time I began to notice the change. I stopped leaving one cup on the side after washing up, I stopped throwing out the last drop of squash in the bottle (yes I subconsciously did this!) and my projects were being completed. Affirmations work. If you have a change to make, affirmations can work for you too.
Mahammid Ali famously said, ‘I am the greatest, I said that even before I knew I was.’
He believed he was the greatest in order to become the greatest!
Affirmations work because we all have a reticular activating systems (RAS). This is the system what information is presented to your conscious mind and when.
Your sense pick up thousands of pieces of information each second, if we had to conscious process each bit of information we would go insane – it is just not possible. So your RAS picks up what is important and the rest of the information is ‘filed away’ into your subconscious.
Once we begin to plant a belief your RAS sets about to notice and prove it! It is a bit like when you testdrive a car you have never seen before and on your drive home you notice the model 4-5 times. These cars haven’t just materialised they have always been on the roads but your RAS is only now recognising them.
This is why Law of attraction and the ‘The Secret’ works and the best thing about affirmations is that you dont have to identify your negative beliefs. All you ahve to do is identify the beliefs you want…